You know when we met (going back to the previous entry) there wasn’t such a thing as online dating. Heck there wasn’t such a thing as the internet. I know that will be hard to believe for some of you - sadly it’s true.

Well time and progress moves on. Try, if you like, to imagine what the world is going to be like for your children, and their children. It’s just a matter of looking back in time at how things have changed over the past 50 years. Not so hard to do now with the internet.

But I digress, we are not here to talk about the past, but more so about the future. Your future.

In the last post I told you that Jenny (that beautiful lady) and I are married. Has life been all roses. Heck no. We have been fortunate in that when we felt that we had had enough of one another it just wasn’t at the same time.

Marriage and any relationship is hard work. Two people with totally different personalities trying to get along with each other over any period of time is always going to be difficult. However the end result makes it all worth while.

Today life is in the fast lane. In general people are working longer hours and spending less time on a social life. There is no time for sport or face-to-face communication with others. We now communicate via email,   the ‘phone or voip. For relaxation we grab a video on the way home or just turn on the television.

Psychologists tell us the the human beast needs to communicate with at least sixteen people a day to maintain their sanity, and ideally that is face-to-face communication.

 Well how do we go about finding some one to talk to today, you ask.

 Online Dating has many virtues for the person with little time on their hands. It gives you the opportunity to not only meet some one online but also to build a relationship, before you actually get to meet face to face.

There is the danger that the person you are talking to is not really who they say they are. Be careful not to disclose too much about yourself in the early days. Ideally use video to talk to each other, once you feel that you are confident enough to meet on a face-to-face basis.

In the same token be truthful to the person on the other end. Treat them as you want them to treat you. No one likes to be ripped off.

Once there is that nice fuzzy feeling that you would like to meet this person in person, arrange the first few meeting in a public place. Have coffee together, progressing to having a meal at a restuarant together and see where this takes you.

Remember there is no rush. The longer it takes to build a friendship the stronger your relationship will grow and the longer it will last.