You have been online to MyelusiveLover and looked around the online dating services that are available. You have registered for free on a couple of the dating sites and got your details out to the networks.

Congratulations on taking your first steps. That was the hardest thing you are going to do. It takes a lot of courage to get moving, and unfortunately there are a lot of people throughout the world who are very lonely, but too afraid to just take that first step.

Now it’s up to you to relax and chat with your contacts. Chat online first so that you get the “feel” of their personality. Don’t be shy to ask them questions about themselves. You need to know about them, if they are married, in a relationship, why they are registered on the dating site. Learn this before committing to meeting them.

Another hint about learning if they are in a relationship or not, did they post a picture of themselves on the ‘net. Men in particular, who are in any sort of relationship, are predominately not likely to post a picture of themselves on the net. Keep that in mind Ladies.

Don’t rush into the first face-to-face meeting. Spend time chatting online and on the ‘phone to get to know each other. The time this takes is up to you. Just be confident that this is a person you want to meet. Then go ahead and make arrangements to meet for coffee.

Where this leads to is, again, entirely up to the two of you.

If you feel that this isn’t the person for you, or you don’t click, just go back to MyElusiveLover or the dating sites you are registered with and start again.

Don’t feel that this was a failure, think of it as a practice run, it is just the first step of getting out there and meeting new people, creating a new circle of friends and opening up a whole new world.