We have spoken a lot in the past, about finding a lover, a friend, or a partner online.

There are a number of things to consider once you have met someone who you are attracted to.

Lets have a closer look at these points in depth.
1. Be positive: no one wants to go on a date with a person who complains about the restaurant, the meal, the cab etc. There will be times that you don’t agree with the environment you are in, or the meal that wasn’t prepared to your expectation. This is a fact of life. Keep it to yourself and next time it is suggested going back there, just make a subtle recommendation that you would prefer to go somewhere else.

2. Don’t talk about yourself: There are three words that you should not introduce into a conversation and these are ME, MYSELF, and I. People don’t need to hear about your life history in the early part of a relationship. Leave that for when the relationship goes and becomes stronger. This way, if there are any questions about your past, at least there will be some solidity in the relationship to hold it together.

3. Ask questions about your new friend: this will give you a chance to find out if your new friend is self centred and conceited, or someone who will tell you just a little about them self but are focused on other topics. Point 2 & 3 are really both inter-linked. At the beginning of any relationship is a good time to find out if you are with a self centred zombie, or someone who is interested in you and what is happening out side of their own circle.

4. Be relaxed: have you ever been to a restaurant and seen a couple who are dining together. One or both of them are obviously feeling stressed and they play with the cutlery or napkin and are looking every where apart from their partner. You guess they are just beginning a relationship or about to end one. On the other hand, if you are relaxed with your partner, you can both enjoy the conversation and the climate of the occasion. If you are not enjoying the situation, don’t be afraid to apologise and politely, get up and leave. Who pays the bill is up to you and the arrangement prior to the engagement.

5. Don’t smoke: if you are a non smoker and going out with a smoker, there is nothing worse that the smoker getting up from the table to go outside for a cigarette, or lighting up at the table. This can be a real killer to any relationship be it romantic or business. Smokers, contain the urge for that cigarette until you are in a situation where you wont offend anyone.

We hope you find these points helpful in your relationship and look forward to talking to you in the near future.