Welcome to part 3 of this series Working smart – not hard.

Okay, you read the last post and you are still having trouble deciding what it is that is going to drive you, that something special that is going to make you dive out of bed in the mornings feeling on top of the world and ready to go. That thing that will keep you up at nights studying or researching on how you can obtain it.

Don’t worry. At this stage what you are experiencing is natural.

Anyone who has found their dream, has had the same challenge in the beginning.

Do you remember when you learnt to ride a bike. You had trainer wheels on the back to help you get started, Then you progressed to riding without the trainer wheels. At first you were wobbly without the trainers, then you started to get you balance, then you got more confident and then you tackled going outside of the yard, and then into the traffic. Next thing you were riding to school.

From here, some of you even went on to cycle racing (I’m afraid that wasn’t for me ).

Well this is no different.

I used to think, what is going to drive me – I work 60+ hours a week and don’t have real time to think about some dream or goal these guy’s keep talking about! What is it that I really want (yeah I used to enjoy my JOB!)

I should find something! You know the more I tried to think of something the harder it got.

Then my mentor told me a couple of truths.

• Don’t should on your self!
• The harder you try to find something the harder it is to find.

It’s true you know. I kept chastising myself because I couldn’t find the dream. And that’s when things started to happen.

I relaxed and said to myself – okay mate, just relax and it will come to you.

That’s when I started to put pictures on the refrigerator. It got to the stage that the ‘fridge looked like a catalogue. It was a mass of confusion. My wife was going off her tree about all this stuff I had there. And saying that I was just dreaming (funny that) and that it would never happen.

I spoke to my mentor about this. Know what? He told me that she was right! Well that took the wind out of my sails a bit. “What do you mean – you told me I had to dream”. Yes he said, but I need to concentrate on one thing at a time.

Take baby steps, and as you grow into the baby steps, take bigger steps. Grow the dreams as you achieve the smaller dreams.

What he was telling me was that I had to learn to crawl before I could walk, walk before I could run. 

That is when I began to learn how to build the dream.

You can have all the things you want in life. The new home, the new car, the new wardrobe, the trust account for your children’s schooling or the underprivileged and build your catalogue. That’s not wrong.

What I am saying is get excited about the little things that are difficult to achieve immediately. Something that is just out of reach.

When you get that – shoot for the next dream that is just out of reach, then the next, and the next.

We will go into this more in the future.

Till then – have fun and be kind to each other.